Saturday, May 28, 2011

The Modern Day Woman… what cost….

At the turn of the century, women’s social roles greatly expanded. Back then women were really women, they had loving affectionate personalities and no matter what her conditions were she always made sure that the needs of her family were met, however, by the 1900, living conditions began to change and more and more women had to leave their home life and go out into the working world. A new era had dawn on woman herself where her voice was demanded to be heard, they wanted their rights of being treated equally, if man can vote, so can they, if man can head a company, so can they, in the process of clamouring for her rights, who she is and what she represents gradually began to fade in the background – she began to loose her identify of what she was made for or even what she is capable of, she no longer remembered what is her role or place in society.

In today’s society we can clearly see the results of her decision, despite being known to be a better leader than men, they have sacrificed their marriages, their integrity, their self-respect, their children, all for the purpose of having to be the one at the top, the one to be holding more power, the one to be dominating. The entertainment industry have spoken very loudly that you cannot have it all if you’re a woman, if you want to be the centre of attraction, the one in the leading role, then forget the husband, forget the kids, forget being a homemaker – indirectly they are saying – forget yourself.

There is a truth that still stands today but has forgotten by all, and that truth is: as a woman, yes, you can have your career and at the same time have your family – you can indeed have it all. The Bible shows us that Deborah was unique among the women and men of the Bible, she was a prophetess, a wife, a judge and a military leader – all in one, a combination of authority and responsibility (exactly what every woman wants), this position was held by only two other individuals in the Bible; Moses and Samuel.

This example that God has given us shows that we as women can be entrusted with much, we can be entrusted with the responsibility of making a difference without loosing sight of whom we are or loosing the characteristics proper to us which is, being discrete, respectful, dedicated, admirable, caring, compassionate and above all feminine.

The order of her title shows where her priorities lies: Prophetess, wife, judge and military leader (God, family, career). With God being in first place it enabled her to hold up to the other responsibilities and accomplish all that was placed before her at no cost to herself as a woman or her family or the nation of Israel. When God is first place in our lives, He gives us the ability to be all that we can be and then some, for after all in this He is glorified.

The word of God teaches us that; “Through wisdom a house is built and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.” (Prov. 24:3&4) – There’s always room for change.

Donna Onwubiko


Val Dewes said...

Dear Mrs. Donna and Mrs. Marcia

This word blessed me a lot! We as woman of God needs to be prepared for each and every things that is entrusted in our hands, but we can't mess up the order. (God, Family, work etc). I believe that when we are at Jesus' feet we are able to organize our lives in the way God will be pleased. God bless you greatly!!!

lindiwe said...

Dear Mrs Marcia,

At the plege night when Mrs Donna spoke about modern woman it really open my eyes I wish I had the pen to write so that I will not do the same mistake of forgetting my role as a woman thank you for the post because I will be able to print it and use it for the future May God Bless You More and More

Lindiwe Khanyile

Puleng Ngoato (Bxt UK) said...

I always thought it was one or the other a homemaker or a leader as a female never the both of them.
I thought the same way in order for me to get married I have to make sure I have completely finished studying and have to be earning a certain wage I have to be driving my dream car and living in my dream house, then and only then can I get married and think about having a family, but I seriously never thought of doing both with the power of God.

Thank you xx
Puleng Ngoato (Brixton UK)