Thursday, November 20, 2014

November is Special

We are getting towards the end of the month of November and to me, this is one of the most important months of the year. Every year in November, Women in Action join thousands of people throughout the world, as  we participate in  the 16 Days of Activism for no violence against  women and children.
For those who work hard to bring awareness of this terrible scourge in society, there is no better time to promote the prevalence of abuse and violence, because the media in general gives full support to this cause during the 16 Days of Activism campaign.
My purpose is not merely to talk about the subject of violence and abuse, point out shocking statistics or show some terrible photographs of victims. My aim is far greater.
What I really want to do, is to help women, young or old, to deal with the ghosts of the past.
It takes great courage to talk about personal experiences. We always think we will be judged, labelled and probably not understood.
And this is the value of this month – with so many women sharing their stories and how they overcame their circumstances, you may feel encouraged to look for help, realising that you are not alone.
Let me give you an example – say you have financial problems and receive one more bill that has been outstanding for three months. What would you do? Open a drawer or a file and toss it there?
Ok, you have put it out of sight but you have  not solved the arrears problem. For now you do not actually see the bill but in time your electricity will be cut off, or your credit will be suspended or your car will be repossessed. There will be consequences.
If you have had a bad experience in the past and have hidden it in your sub-conscious mind, it does not mean you have dealt with it.
As you face new situations in your life: family gatherings, new relationships, applying for a job, or raising your children, this unresolved trauma pops up and it seems that these bad memories are stronger than ever before.
Then you think: “Why do I have to deal with something that happened so long ago?” Once again, you hide the problem in your sub-conscious.
When we Break the Silence, we are challenging you to do just the same – it is time to stop “hiding and seeking” from this trauma. This is the moment to deal with this bad experience, overcome the complex, fear or pain caused by it.
Let us talk, and if necessary, seek help from relevant organisations. You have the right to be happy.

And to see you happy is what makes this month so special for me.

2 comments:

Ricardina I Maleka said...

16 Days of Activism for no violence against women and children.As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates other. No to abuse #rise woman rise# Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.

MaryJane Seeiso said...

Yes, most people are comfortable with just forgetting the past, it's much easier that way. Even the subject of raising awareness on this subject is uncomfortable to some. But as you said Mrs Marcia this is a problem that we cannot shove under the carpet. It's out there and many women are suffering. Let us deal with it once and for all.16 Days of Activism for no violence against women and children. Let your voice be heard!