Grace, a survivor |
Then one of my dad’s uncles came to live with us. We
were at my granny’s house. Every morning I would wake up to fi nd him on top of
me, raping me. It happened every morning. I was so scared because I thought
that I was going to get into trouble for it. I told my aunt and she laughed at
me and said: “What are you expecting? Look at you. You’re useless. You’re
nothing. That’s why your parents dumped you here. Nobody loves you. You’re only
a burden, so it’s your fault. Don’t try to look innocent. You deserve it.” With
that I was silenced forever. A year later I came back home, very quiet.
Then my cousin (my dad’s late brother’s son) started
to molest me as well. Also EVERY DAY! From before I started school until I was
in grade 5, he was so obsessed with me that whenever I would fight and refuse,
he would want to do it to my little sister. I was so afraid of him. He was also
a gangster. He told me he didn’t care. If I spoke about it, he would kill my
parents and my little sister and then sell me off to his gangster friends.
Anyway, even if I spoke, nobody would believe me. In 2004, I was sexually
harrassed by another relative whom I loved so much. This whole thing made me
create my own little dark world where only I could live.
I was wounded and shattered. I lived with so much fear
because every man was a rapist, a molester to me. I hated men with all my
heart. I didn’t even trust my own father. I was always afraid to be left alone
with him thinking that he might do the same to me, since I believed that he
didn’t love me. I hated my parents. I blamed them so much, but I forgot that
they didn’t know. For many years I tried to commit suicide. If I count now,
it’s more than 100 times. I was empty, lost, depressed and SO, SO ANGRY!! I was
so desperate to end my life. I would cut myself, overdose, drink car chemicals,
eat rat and cockroach poisons. I did it all…. My anger was mostly directed at
God. I hated Him. I blamed Him. I even wrote Him a letter telling Him how much
I hated Him. Happiness — I hated that too. Mine was a momentary thing. In a day
I would be happy for two hours and spend the rest of the week down and crying,
every day.
The pain could not be described. I didn’t like people
because they seemed too happy while I was dying. If my parents shouted about a
mistake that I made, I would spend a week without speaking to them. I was too
angry to see reason. 2009 was my matric year. I had two major heartattacks,
which gave me a 20% chance of living. That was when God held my hand and said
“I’m here. It’s time to accept. Stop being in denial about it all and be
reborn.” It took time and it was so hard, painful and difficult. I clung to
God’s hand. He told me how much He loved me in Romans ch 5, and He proved it
because I gave Him a chance. About four months ago I had the courage to sit
down with my mother. I told her everything. So much had been lies. She showed
me so much love! Today I’m a living testimony. My life is so blessed.
I’m the HAPPIEST person alive. I’m serving God. I love
people so much. I’m free and cured and no longer angry. I no longer fear. I
learned to forgive myself and others and then to conquer all! I overcame. Even
though those memories do visit sometimes, I no longer cry or feel pain. I laugh
at it and say ‘thank you’ for happening because if it hadn’t, I would not be
here today. I am who I am because of my past — which is a woman of God. I am
God’s chosen.
Thank you!!
On the 25h of November, join us at the Library Gardens, JHB CBD, for a campaign to bring awareness and counselling - from 9am to 4pm.
2 comments:
Hello Grace
Thank you for sharing your life transformation with us, praise be to God you overcame.
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Powerful testimony Grace my friend.All I can say is one who gains strength by overcoming obstacles possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity
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